Monday, 12 January 2015

16 Characteristics of Real Love

Love. It makes the world go 'round, right? Well, at least that's the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn't either of those things. But these 16 things are. 

So here are the characteristics of REAL love:

1. Love means saying goodbye to expectations. 

Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for "acceptability" of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves "as is."

2. Love doesn't play the victim role or blame others. 

Love doesn't think others are "out to get them." Love doesn't think their loved ones are wrong. Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people's actions to be their journey. Love doesn't take things personally.

3. Love includes letting go. 

Love doesn't equal possession. Just as the saying goes, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, then it never was." There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It doesn't hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn't want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be.

4. Love doesn't require you to continue a relationship. 

You may love someone very much, but you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn't mean you have to be with them. Love doesn't mean that you have to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.

5. Love has no room for jealousy.

Like possession, jealousy doesn't equal love. We think that if we're not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don't love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you.

6. Love is the absence of fear. 

You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then appreciation. After that, it's joy, happiness, contentment and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy or greed.

7. Love is not needing, but wanting.

One of the things we try to teach kids is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based in fear. You fear that you can't live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but still shows them you love them.

8. Love is an action, not just a feeling. 

Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion -- especially when it feels good. So, when we're in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than "Cloud 9" feeling goes away after a while. That doesn't mean you don't love the other person anymore, it just means that it's not new anymore. So that's where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don't just assume they know.

9. Love is unconditional. 

The word "unconditional" means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren't good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person.

10. Love means putting other people's needs equal to -- or before -- your own. 

While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don't put other people's needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people's happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued.

11. Love is the highest vibration emotion that there is. 

Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. Love vibrates very fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally, there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times.

12. Love requires attention. 

Love doesn't ignore. It doesn't look the other way. It wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don't have to "do any more work." But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn't see giving attention to another person as a chore.

13. Love understands and accepts differences. Let's face it: We're all different. Even identical twins aren't exactly the same. They have different experiences and outlooks about the world. Real love doesn't make other people wrong for being different. When people truly love another person, they accept their differences.

14. Love varies in how it is expressed and accepted. 

What makes us "feel loved" varies. In the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of Service, (3) Giving Gifts, (4) Spending Time Together and (5) Touch. It's important to discover other people's love language so you can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes it.

15. Love makes you feel good, not bad. 

Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean there is true love present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, abuse (verbal, emotional or physical), that is not love. Refer back to #6. Those are fear-based emotions and actions.

16. Love has empathy. 

Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person's shoes and see a situation from his/her point of view. Love has deep empathy. "When you hurt, I hurt." People who truly love one another don't want to hurt them. They want them to feel good. They care about their feelings and try everything they can to make them feel valued and worthy.

Remember, love is happiness, appreciation and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all loved one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place!

Monday, 25 August 2014

Keywords for Taurus

Warm Hearted
Security Loving
Laid Back


The Taurus Woman

When you meet a Taurus woman, you will notice that her presence demands a sort of quiet respect. She does not need the attention like the Leo Woman does, but her calm and sensual aura will attract many to her. She doesn't need to cry to get her way, she just uses her practicality and honesty. This Taurus is all woman, so if you want to date her you need to be a good and solid man. She won't settle for anything less, because she knows exactly who she is.  You will never meet someone with more self control than this woman. She does things slow and practical. Even the way she moves is not sharp and quick.
She will be pretty "normal" to a person that has just met her, but take a look at her friends. They are usually pretty wild and crazy. Most of them are very strange as well. Why do you think that is? This woman takes people for how they are, and even enjoys their nuances and individuality. She is patient with everyone, and enjoys being pulled out from her cool exterior every once in a while. She surrounds herself with REAL people, money and fame are not a prerequisite for the people she loves. She is loyal, and she respects the same back in return for whomever she blesses her loyalty with.

Her anger is something to talk about, but not to really concern yourself with.  She is very slow to anger. If you upset a Taurus you must have done something really terrible. When she does reach her breaking point, it's enough to scare even a Scorpio straight out of their skin. She is all about practicality, and doesn't care to sit and ponder the economic policy. If you want to get this woman talking and interested, converse about something practical and logical. If you try to impress her with how smart you are it will not work. She values common sense over intelligence every time.
This woman loves tangible things. You will rarely see fake flowers or fake art in her house. She is all about the senses. She will always smell incredible, and will have impeccable taste in music. She loves scent... it is probably her favorite sense. Make sure that you are always smelling fresh around your Taurus woman, she will notice. She loves the smell of fresh baked cookies, cut grass, and leather.  She loves color too. You will rarely find any shade of crimson in the Bull's home. Stick to pastels and earth tones. She will love the taste of food. Taurus, much like Cancer, love to eat. Cancers eat for comfort, Taurus eats for the sense and taste. Take her somewhere where the food is amazing. She is actually one hell of a cook herself because of her keen sense of taste. If you take her to a concert of a band you know she likes that is also big brownie points for this girl. I don't know one Taurus that does not like music. This sign is also very in tune with nature, so a hike or a bike ride is a grand idea as well.

This woman typically will pick practical and comfortable clothing over something loud and ridiculous. Don't be surprised to find her in yoga pants more than a tight mini skirt. I bet you anything her bed feels like a cloud too. Taurus take a lot of pride in how comfortable their bed is. If a Taurus takes care of you it will be with tea and a hot bath, two things they enjoy very much. They will be wonderful mothers that are patient with their children. When it comes to discipline, she will most likely be stubborn with her rules. All Taurus are stubborn in one way or another.
They aren't one for complaining or griping over small matters. She may appear lazy because of her calm and slow movement, but she has work ethic for days. Unlike Leo, they have no problem supporting a household on her own. They do not want a weak needy man, but they can sure as hell can put the team on their back.

When something serious happens, she will put her practical face on. Where others would stress and cry, she will crack a joke. That is just how these women handle themselves, it is impressive. She will want to marry someone strong and supportive who is sensible with their money. She will not marry you for your money and will be strong for you in your darkest hour. She will want you to be practical and let her surround herself in comfort by creating a tangibly appealing home. They love security, so if you are a struggling artist you may want to find a Pisces because this woman would rather have a man at a starting position making 30k a year at a Fortune 500 company who can work their way through the ranks. 

If you are looking for a wild girl who is unpredictable and loud, the Taurus woman is not for you. She is steady, predictable, loyal, and comforting. She is useful and loving, and will work hard with you to get to a secure and beautiful future. She will create a warm and comfortable home you will never want to leave.

Saturday, 7 June 2014


WOMAN. . . .     
When God created woman he was working late on the 6th day.

An angel came by and asked. "Why spend so much time on her?"
The lord answered. "Have you seen all the specifications I have to meet to shape her?"

"She must be washable but not made of plastic, have more than 200 moving parts which must be replaceable.

She must function on all kinds of foods.

She must be able to embrace several kids at the same time.

Give a hug that can heal anything from a bruised knee to a broken heart.

She must do all this with only two hands.

She cures herself when sick and can work 18 hours a day."
THE ANGEL was impressed. "Just two hands.....impossible!"

And this is the standard model?!" 

The Angel came closer and touched the woman"

"But you have made her so soft, Lord"

"She is soft", said the Lord, 

"But I have made her strong. You can't imagine what she can endure and overcome"

"Can she think?" The Angel asked...

The Lord answered. "Not only can she think, she can reason and negotiate"

The Angel touched her cheeks.

"Lord, it seems this creation is leaking! You have put too many burdens on her."

"She is not is a tear" The Lord corrected the Angel...

"What's it for?" Asked the Angel.

The Lord said. "Tears are her way of expressing 
her grief, 
her doubts, 
her love, 
her loneliness, 
her suffering and 
her pride."

THIS made a big impression on the Angel.

"Lord, you are genius. You thought of everything. 
A woman is indeed marvelous!"

Lord said."Indeed she is. 

She has strength that amazes a man. 

She can handle trouble and carry heavy burdens. 

She holds happiness, love and opinions. 

She smiles when she feels like screaming. 

She sings when she feels like crying, 
cries when happy and laughs when afraid. 

She fights for what she believes in. 

Her love is unconditional. 

Her heart is broken when a next-of-kin or a friend dies.

But she finds strength to get on with life.

The Angel asked: "So she is a perfect?"

The lord replied: "No. She has just one drawback."

"She often forgets what she is worth."

Friday, 29 November 2013

Best Outfit For Scarf

Usually, people will select the clothing first before they choose what scarf to wear with it – or if it needs to be worn with one. A scarf is the best way to accessorize your outfit because it‘s versatility will enable you to be as creative in your fashion statement as possible. However, there are certain rules that you need to know about where a typical scarf can best be used for.

A Silk Scarf and Skinny Jeans
For instance, you may think that a silk scarf is best used for formal occasions only because of its texture. However, most fashion stylists will ask you to wear it with skinny jeans and a simple top – it can be a plain shirt with a snug fit. You have the option to wear in on your head, neck or if the length will permit it, on your hips as a belt. What this scarf will do is make your simple outfit very sophisticated. Just add heels or pumps and a purse and you can be off to an afternoon with your friends. Other lighter materials like chiffon and satin scarves can be worn with a dress or a suit as an accessory.

Tight Sweaters with Wool Scarves
Wool scarves are ideal for winter wear but thinner types can also be used during warmer seasons. They should be worn with tight fitting sweaters – not loose ones (unless you are a man). A bulky wool scarf will not go well with an equally bulky sweater. If you don’t want to appear like you are drowning in your clothing, stay away from this combination. If bulky sweaters are what you prefer, choose the thinner wool scarves.

Summer Outfits with Fringe Scarves
Fringe scarves are best paired with summer outfits. Even longer scarves can be wrapped around the neck or draped to hang loose in front over a sleeveless tank top with shorts and sandals. You can also tie it around your head to protect it from the heat. Use bright colors to compliment the outfit.

Scarves for Evening Events
For evening affairs, go for scarves with embellishments like beads and sequins. The glitter effect will contribute to the elegance of your outfit. Pair it with another glittering accessory like a small purse and it should be a good combination for your night out.

Other pieces that are usually accessorized with scarves are jackets and coats. It can be worn inside around your neck, or draped to fall in front of the coat. A scarf is a good way to create a lot of looks for the few jackets and coats that you own – especially during wintertime.

Scarf-Outfit Pairing Tips
  • Make sure the colors and designs do not clash. Mixing and matching designs can be done with different patterns. Keep away from similar patterns like a plaid scarf with a plaid jacket.
  • Do not pair bulky scarves with big accessories like dangling earrings, long necklaces, etc.
  • Follow the simple rules in color matching. Warm shades must be paired with cooler ones. Also, wearing different shades of one color hue is also acceptable (e.g. pink with red or yellow with orange).
Any fashion stylist will tell you to dress to your strengths. Whatever choice of outfit, you need to ensure that it will compliment your body type and skin color. Regardless of the clothing pieces that you choose or the accessories that you pair it with, if it does not look good on you, it will surely fail.

Dear Scarf

Scarves, neckerchiefs are very important accessories. You can hide figure flaws and emphasize your dignity if you use them in a right way. Wearing these accessories will benefit any woman since they can create a reputation of a classy lady. So, in order to look stylish, follow some basic rules!

1.  You have narrow shoulders but wide hips. Your choice is volume but thin scarf which you should tie around your neck.

2.  If you have a thin neck, a sumptuous bow on the collar of your blouse will help you to make this little defect invisible.

3.  In order to look taller, put on a long scarf without tying it around your neck.
An unexpected fact – beaded shawl will make a woman look younger.

4.  When you try to blend the scarf with your jeans, pay close attention to such kind of details: it should be thin and small with tiny patterns on it.

5.  If you don’t know how to choose right color, it’s recommended to match it with the color of the belt or your own eyes. 

6.  In order to fix a silk or chiffon scarf, use a brooch. However be careful as it works only with plain fabrics. So, if your scarf has prints, it’s better to fasten it with a decorative pin.

7.  You will look more stylish if you don’t wear overly “fussy” scarf. It is known that designer works usually are not so pompous.

8.  The most stylish scarves are hand painted. By the way, textile painting is known as one of the most refined hobby of Hollywood celebrities.


Tuesday, 19 November 2013

Men, It's Time To Review A Proper Date...

Have we lost all chivalry in society today? I want my men to ask me on proper dates. I want them to take me out on proper dates. It’s really not too much to ask. With all our access to online dating and dating apps, it is easy for men to lose sight of the fact that they need to put forth effort to woo a woman. Make me feel weak in the knees, boys!

I know that some of the apps and sites are more for people looking to hook up, rather than find someone special. To be honest, I don’t think that I am going to find a partner by trolling for hotties on Tinder, but I do still think I can meet some cool dudes and maybe even get taken out on a few dates.

It is my strict and personal belief that if I am asked on a proper date, I will ALWAYS say yes! I don’t care who you are, what you do, or what you look like. I will say yes, provided I’m not in a committed relationship – and even then I have been given permission to go on a few (long story).

Let’s review what a proper date is…
It starts by actually asking me out. Please call me up on the phone, or if we are talking in person, ask me then. I will accept a text message asking me out, but it knocks you down a few points. Let’s review the proper way to ask a woman on a date. “Wanna hang out?” is NOT a proper way to ask me on a date, nor is it a proper date.

Most likely I will respond to this with a big “No.” “Brooklyn, can I take you out this week?” Or better yet, “Brooklyn, can I take you to dinner Friday night?” If you are awesome, you’ll say, “Brooklyn, I’d like to take you on an adventure. When is the best time for you?”

To any of these three proposals, I’d likely say, “Absolutely!” Now, I’m not saying drop everything, ladies, but if you are asked on a proper date, say yes! Unfortunately, it takes balls these days to actually ask a girl out.

Now, gentlemen, when you ask me out on a proper date, that means you pick me up at my house, knock on my door and escort me to wherever it is we are going. Please open doors for me. I dressed up for you. You can show me some manners if you’re really trying to impress.

Of course I can open my own doors. Heck, I can change my own oil! That is not the point. I am a lady on a date. Treat me as a woman. The age-old question of who should pay is awkward for the first few months for every couple. Guys, I am sorry but the burden falls on you.

You asked me out, so as your guest, you should pay for me. I won’t reach for my purse, but I will make sure to thank you before, during and after. I will always send a thank you text or call the next day. Ladies, appreciation goes a long way with a man. Do not forget that, ever!

A more casual date is allowed if you are meeting a woman for the first time, as in a dating app/site first meeting or a blind date. Obviously, do not ever allow a complete stranger to pick you up from where you live. But boys, after casual outings once or twice, if you like the girl take her out on a proper date.

When picking a place, know something about the girl. Don’t pick a chain restaurant. No matter how much I love Chili’s, do not take me there for our first date. Pick somewhere interesting, somewhere we can talk and somewhere not too mainstream.

If I’m being taken on an adventure, tell me what to bring. The worst is when you find out you are cliff jumping and need hiking boots to climb the rock face. I’ve got gear, just tell me what to bring!

The same goes for dinner, drinks, show dates – tell me where we are going or give me a dress code. If I show up in a hot dress to find you in jeans and your ball cap, I’ll feel silly. Make sure we are all set for success.

In the end, I put most of the pressure of a first date back on the women. Ladies, stop accepting anything less than proper dates. I have been in long-term committed relationships and had my fella still ask me on proper dates because I deserve it!

I would still dress up special for him and he could show me off. It’s romantic and there is no reason why we can’t all still have great dates! And he loved that I got all gussied up just for him.

Gentleman, step up your game! You will win way more hearts (and…other parts) by woo’ing a girl. We love to be treated like proper ladies on dates. Make us gush for you.