25 signs you're succeeding at life (Even if it doesn't feel like it)

We’ve all had days, weeks, months and — for some — even years of dark days and depression. Whether we fall into ruts of self-sabotage, loneliness or insecurity, leading a happy, joyful life can sometimes feel like a chore. 

Most of us are so busy trying to dodge life bullets, we forget to stop and appreciate the little victories. 

Consider for a moment that you're doing a tremendous job at life. Living isn't an easy thing to do, but it can be enjoyable when we start to see the good instead of focusing on the bad. 

You are actually living a good life by recognizing these 25 signs: 

1. Your relationships are less dramatic than they use to be. 

2. You may not have as much money as you want but you live a rich life. 

3. You're not afraid to ask for help and support. 

4. Where you live feels like home. 

5. You’ve raised your standards. 

6. You let go of things that don’t make you feel good. 

7. You have moments where you appreciate who you see in the mirror. 

8. You're working on limiting your inner critic and consciously choosing more positive thoughts. 

9. You’ve learned that setbacks and failure are part of self-growth. 

10. You have a support system that includes people who would do anything for you. 

11. You hear “I love you” often, from friends, family or a partner. 

12. You've accepted what you can’t change, but change what you can’t accept. 

13. You don’t complain much, but instead focus on solutions. 

14. You don’t blame your parents, and accept them for who they are. 

15. You stopped caring about what others think of you. 

16. You're happy for your exes when they move on. 

17. You can celebrate others' successes. 

18. You allow yourself to feel your feelings and are comfortable sharing them. 

19. You have passions that you pursue. 

20. You're able to accept compliments without deflecting.

21. You have things to look forward to.

22. You have goals that have come true.

23. You have empathy for others.

24. You feel connected to your work.

25. You love deeply and open yourself up to be loved by others.

The Part Ones

It's been quite some times i didn't write anything here. A lot's of stuff going around during the time i'm not on here, some changes.

My career change. I got a new job, and it's been eight months on my new job now.
Frankly speaking, i like this job of mine, probably among all of my previous jobs. My boss was a funny guy, not really a control freak like others or nasty old man like the others. LOL. He's understandable and nice. Oh, did i mention which department i'm in? Shit! I'm in Business Development a.k.a BD. 

And my colleagues, well there are the funny ones, the jokers, the mind-their-own-business ones, the cheeky ones, the brilliant ones, all kind of people here, which makes it more interesting. Haha..
The working environment here are much more healthier than the previous ones that i had to be honest. People here are more like family, and i like it this way, and i believe in a healthy environment could makes a lots of different. 

The only thing is that i'm a hell of a forgetful one. Do really need to get over it, like fast. XP
Oh yea, i just remembered something, something that i've never seen it before in a office. I'll tell you but keep it down yea. Haha... we have a massive mini market in our department. Seriously no joke. Lol. We contribute some money for the department snacks, and guess what, we got ourself a mini market. I open it and "wow", what the heck! Hahaha... Cool!!! I can't recall where  keep the picture of it, i remember that i've took a picture of it. I'll search it later on.

We have a new girl in our department last Monday. She's from a place call Malacca in Malaysia, my half home. She's taking over Regional part of work from another girl which move to handling one big account. She's a nice girl, in facts, i bet she'll be better than me. Ah-HA!! XD

I hope things would remain the same if it's good, and gets better if it's not.
Until next time, i've got some stuff to attend to now. I still didn't talk about other things, work is just the first things.

Cheers, and have a nice weekend.
XOXO

16 Characteristics of Real Love

Love. It makes the world go 'round, right? Well, at least that's the how the saying goes. But is it true? It should be, but so many people confuse love with things like jealousy or possessiveness. True love isn't either of those things. But these 16 things are. 

So here are the characteristics of REAL love:

1. Love means saying goodbye to expectations. 

Sure, we all want people to behave the way we want them to. We want them to be more affectionate. Or more outgoing. Or smarter. Or more ambitious. All of these things are expectations. Expectations are just your requirements for "acceptability" of loving someone. But true love has no expectations. It simply loves "as is."

2. Love doesn't play the victim role or blame others. 

Love doesn't think others are "out to get them." Love doesn't think their loved ones are wrong. Love works together. It takes responsibility. It forgives and allows other people's actions to be their journey. Love doesn't take things personally.

3. Love includes letting go. 

Love doesn't equal possession. Just as the saying goes, "If you love something, set it free. If it comes back, it's yours. If it doesn't, then it never was." There is truth to that. Love allows people their freedom. It doesn't hold tightly and crush their wings in attempt to keep them. True love doesn't want to possess. It is willing to set you free if you want to be.

4. Love doesn't require you to continue a relationship. 

You may love someone very much, but you may not be compatible with them. Or they may drive you crazy with their continued disregard for your feelings. You can still love them, but that doesn't mean you have to be with them. Love doesn't mean that you have to stay, and stay and stay. You can leave the relationship and love them anyway.

5. Love has no room for jealousy.

Like possession, jealousy doesn't equal love. We think that if we're not jealous of our loved ones that it means that we don't love them. True love has confidence in the quality of the relationship. It knows that the other person is happy and content coming back to you and only you.

6. Love is the absence of fear. 

You can put all emotions on a continuum. On one end, you have love. Then appreciation. After that, it's joy, happiness, contentment and satisfaction. On the opposite end of the continuum of love is fear. Other fear-based emotions include, hatred, insecurity, jealousy or greed.

7. Love is not needing, but wanting.

One of the things we try to teach kids is that there is a clear difference between a want and a need. Needing someone is a feeling based in fear. You fear that you can't live without them, so you need them. And remember, fear is the opposite of love. Wanting someone in your life gives them the freedom to leave, but still shows them you love them.

8. Love is an action, not just a feeling. 

Humans tend to be addicted to intense emotion -- especially when it feels good. So, when we're in love, we want to feel that way forever. But guess what? That higher than "Cloud 9" feeling goes away after a while. That doesn't mean you don't love the other person anymore, it just means that it's not new anymore. So that's where the action needs to kick in. Show the person you love them. Don't just assume they know.

9. Love is unconditional. 

The word "unconditional" means that there are no expectations or limitations set. To love unconditionally is a difficult thing, and most humans aren't good at that. But true love really does love without trying to change the other person.

10. Love means putting other people's needs equal to -- or before -- your own. 

While people may be inherently selfish for survival purposes, this does not serve us well in relationships. If you don't put other people's needs at least equal to your own, they will grow resentful. Real love truly, genuinely cares about other people's happiness and will go to great lengths to make people feel valued.

11. Love is the highest vibration emotion that there is. 

Science has proven that emotions like love and fear have very different vibrations. They can actually measure them. Love vibrates very fast, whereas fear-based emotions (think jealousy, possessiveness, hatred, greed, etc.) vibrate very slowly. When you love completely and unconditionally, there is no fear involved. The vibrations of love make you feel good at all times.

12. Love requires attention. 

Love doesn't ignore. It doesn't look the other way. It wants to be present and be together. When people are in love, sometimes they think that they don't have to "do any more work." But real love actually enjoys giving attention to another person. It feels good, and doesn't see giving attention to another person as a chore.

13. Love understands and accepts differences. Let's face it: We're all different. Even identical twins aren't exactly the same. They have different experiences and outlooks about the world. Real love doesn't make other people wrong for being different. When people truly love another person, they accept their differences.

14. Love varies in how it is expressed and accepted. 

What makes us "feel loved" varies. In the book The Five Love Languages by Gary Chapman, he explains the different ways people give and receive love: (1) Words (2) Acts of Service, (3) Giving Gifts, (4) Spending Time Together and (5) Touch. It's important to discover other people's love language so you can understand each other and give love in a way that the other person recognizes it.

15. Love makes you feel good, not bad. 

Many people confuse being in a relationship with love. Just because you're in a relationship doesn't mean there is true love present. If there is jealousy, possessiveness, constant fighting, abuse (verbal, emotional or physical), that is not love. Refer back to #6. Those are fear-based emotions and actions.

16. Love has empathy. 

Empathy is the ability to put yourself into another person's shoes and see a situation from his/her point of view. Love has deep empathy. "When you hurt, I hurt." People who truly love one another don't want to hurt them. They want them to feel good. They care about their feelings and try everything they can to make them feel valued and worthy.

Remember, love is happiness, appreciation and feeling good. Anything other than that is not love. If we all loved one another as ourselves, the world would be a better place!